Dating sucks in Japan

Japan is a culture of busy bodies, I think. Everybody is in a rush to go somewhere. Advanced booking is generally a must. It is very common to schedule a meeting with your friends a month in advance.   In Mongolia, it is unheard of to schedule a hangout. Usually, I would call up my friend and ask if they would like to go out or have coffee. It is very common to go over to my friend's place to hang out. Impromptu is everywhere.   So, because we are living in a scheduled society, dating sucks in Japan. Recently, a friend of mine recommended I open a Bumble account. I was hesitant at first because I had been catfished through a similar application. But I am giving it a try.   It is very weird to schedule a date a month in advance. Ok it is okay to schedule a date in a week or two, but a month advance feels weird. Also, I still feel hesitant to meet up because I am IMAGINING everything to go bad. My mind is saying prepare for the worst.   Then I remember Brené Brown’s TE...
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So many things in a week

    So many things happened in a week. 

    We are waiting for a business visa for my dad because he established a company in Japan. We have been waiting for a year. Yet, we still have to file for taxes and even pay local city taxes. 

    I know it is weird to pay tax on a company that cannot operate because the person who established the company hasn't gotten his visa, yet. We cannot open even a company bank account because Japanese banks ask for the owner's residence card. There is no residence card if you don't have a business visa. 

    In Japan, if you are a business owner, you must file for taxes 3 times. First, it is the national tax. You or an accountant prepare the financial statements and you go to the national tax office for tax filing. You may or may not pay taxes because it will depend on whether you had a good year or a bad one. Second, it is the city tax. It is the tax you pay where you have your office and operate. We paid 50000 yen. I know it is weird to pay any tax even though we cannot operate. Lastly, it is the prefecture tax. Make sure you get the location from your city office. Otherwise, it is troublesome to know about the location on your own. We went there and explained our situation. The lady suggested that we should fill out a form that says the company didn't operate. Thankfully, we didn't pay anything. I am glad we managed to finish all the paperwork in one day despite having to go to three different offices.  

    Then I had a crazy busy three-day English program which I prepared the most. During the program, I had to talk to my co-worker because I said something in a way that could have been said better manner and he took everything to heart thinking it was his fault when it was not. 

    Then, today my cousin came to me and said he and his girlfriend fought and she went to her friend's place. He talked and I listened. I explicitly said that it looked like a miscommunication (obviously there is an expectation alignment issue for both of them and stubbornness). 

    On a personal note, I haven't been eating anything that has added sugar. My coworkers all know that. However, I keep receiving snacks. I started to put them in a tin box so I could take them to my nieces and nephews when I went home. So far, the tin box is almost full. 

    However, I had a sweet thing when I was venting. I immediately started to have a headache. 

    Starting from April (that is in a couple of days), I started to cut out carbs. The reason behind the decision is that my belly is not shrinking. I checked my blood sugar this morning, it was on the normal side, but I know I could do better. Another change I decided to make is to exercise regularly, at least 20 minutes a day. 

    I will keep updating here. 



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