Dating sucks in Japan

Japan is a culture of busy bodies, I think. Everybody is in a rush to go somewhere. Advanced booking is generally a must. It is very common to schedule a meeting with your friends a month in advance. 
In Mongolia, it is unheard of to schedule a hangout. Usually, I would call up my friend and ask if they would like to go out or have coffee. It is very common to go over to my friend's place to hang out. Impromptu is everywhere. 
So, because we are living in a scheduled society, dating sucks in Japan. Recently, a friend of mine recommended I open a Bumble account. I was hesitant at first because I had been catfished through a similar application. But I am giving it a try. 
It is very weird to schedule a date a month in advance. Ok it is okay to schedule a date in a week or two, but a month advance feels weird. Also, I still feel hesitant to meet up because I am IMAGINING everything to go bad. My mind is saying prepare for the worst. 
Then I remember Brené Brown’s TED talk about vulnerability. It is scary to go out and put yourself in a space where you might get hurt. It is freaking me out when I think about the what-ifs. After all the spiraling, I tell myself, it is okay because I am bringing my honesty and weirdness to the dating scene. Hopefully, I like the other person, vice versa. If that doesn’t happen, I will be okay. 


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