Dating sucks in Japan

Japan is a culture of busy bodies, I think. Everybody is in a rush to go somewhere. Advanced booking is generally a must. It is very common to schedule a meeting with your friends a month in advance.   In Mongolia, it is unheard of to schedule a hangout. Usually, I would call up my friend and ask if they would like to go out or have coffee. It is very common to go over to my friend's place to hang out. Impromptu is everywhere.   So, because we are living in a scheduled society, dating sucks in Japan. Recently, a friend of mine recommended I open a Bumble account. I was hesitant at first because I had been catfished through a similar application. But I am giving it a try.   It is very weird to schedule a date a month in advance. Ok it is okay to schedule a date in a week or two, but a month advance feels weird. Also, I still feel hesitant to meet up because I am IMAGINING everything to go bad. My mind is saying prepare for the worst.   Then I remember Brené Brown’s TE...
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Work drama 2

 Work drama 2


Here is what happened. 

    At the beginning of the year, several structural changes were implemented. At least, they are in work-in-progress. My position didn't change but got the official recognition of the work that I was doing for the last 5 years. 

    We had a head teacher. That person became the English School Director, which is basically the same position but a different name. Because he is in this new position, he thinks he has to butt in everybody's job. According to his new job description, he has to know everybody's work and schedule. However, he is not doing a good job of it or demanding the position responsibilities from the lady who does all the things aka my supervisor. It has been years since he only has a title and she does everything because she is Japanese. He can't speak Japanese even though he has been living here for more than two decades. I understand it is very easy to live in a bubble where you don't have to learn the language. 

    On top of that, I think he holds grudges. During a meeting, where he and one other staff needed to "talk to me" when I overstepped over into their lanes (which I did discuss and threw an idea and everybody agreed and I did a test run), he brought up something a year ago. I found that weird. If he had a problem with me last year, why didn't he talk about when it happened? It is unfathomable to imagine a slightly higher position-holding person to act like we are in a grade school. 

    Moreover, when we met for the themed summer programs, he asked this question. Dinosaur is our theme, by the way. He asked, "So, you want me to do something dinosaur-themed?" The theme is "DINOSAURS." Of course, I want everybody to do something dinosaur-ish. On the outside, I answered yes. On the inside, I am thinking "Are you f*ing serious?" Any logical person would think since the theme is "Dinosaurs," you would think of doing something dinosaur-related.

    Am I overreacting? 

    I wouldn't deny the cultural side. Changes are hard to implement when the staff has been doing the same thing for many years, especially in Japan. It is a very hierarchical society and companies follow that. Hopefully, at my work, everything will get transitioned and understand their roles.  

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